Reactance: What it Is and How to Work Through It

Time: 3:30p - 5:00p
Location: Salon B

Rebellion!  Or is it?

When someone is raised in a free society and then enters into a formal M/s relationship, there are attending obligations for both the Master and the slave that change our perceptions and how we go about our daily lives. Perceived loss of freedom – from both the Master and slave perspective – can result in reactance.

Processing reactance and recognizing it is one of the most difficult and misunderstood elements of authority exchange relationships. It can often be the cause of the dissolution of a relationship and each party is completely unaware of it.

But what is reactance? Is it really rebellion or something totally different? Is it a loss of control, or an attempt to wrest control away? Or… is it both?

In this presentation we look into reactance and help others to recognize it as well. We help illustrate the nature of reactance is, and what it says about who we are. We examine if it is rare, or to be expected? And even if it is expected, is it something that we can avoid, or at least manage? This presentation requires all of us to look hard at ourselves, and ask ourselves how dedicated to our M/s relationships we are willing to be—and how to wrestle with deep seated social wiring that may set our motives at variance to one another.